Is Facebook really the epitomy of awkwardness?

Browsing through the freshly squeezed blog posts on WordPress, I stumbled across an article about Facebook. The author, ‘Jackie’ a.k.a Twist 365, is part of the ‘post a day 2011’ campaign, doing just that, creating a blog post every single day of the 365 in the year.

However, a post from August 10, ‘Facebook: A New Frontier in Social Awkwardness’, had me interested and in disagreement at the same time. I acknowledge immediately that this is a very well-written and inciteful piece, and one that I enjoyed reading rather a lot. Testament to this statement, of course, is the fact I have felt the need to write an entire seperate blog post about it!

The area which my thoughts contradict most with is the pressure that the author feels she is constanly under. Is there really that much pressure? I don’t think there is. The article reads:

“When I log on, I have updates that need tended to.  I have people commenting on pictures or saying hello or writing on my wall to ask me to hang out that same day.  I have messages from friends who haven’t caught up in a while and think email is too impersonal.  And sometimes while I’m tending to those things, someone is online at the very same moment and responds immediately.  Immediately! Then there’s all this pressure.  Do I have to follow up? Can I go log off?  They’re on.  They see me.  They know I updated only 5 seconds ago; it’s stamped right there in cold, gray text. I can’t possibly just leave – I have to finish the conversation.”

I couldn’t agree less with this statement. If you don’t want to have a conversation, simply don’t reply, or reply at a later date (all chat messages are now sent to the inbox as well). Facebook also offers a ‘go offline’ function, so how about using it?  That way, nobody knows your online, and you can do what you like and then leave without anybody being any the wiser.

What do my readers think of this article? Do you find yourself agreeing or disagreeing?


4 responses to “Is Facebook really the epitomy of awkwardness?

  1. A social network will only offer a person pressure if that person allows it to. Like you said opt for the go offline option. If that person really hates the so called pressures then maybe they should say goodbye to Facebook all together

    • Exactly what I thought. It is as easy to feel pressurised by Facebook as it to turn your back on Facebook and ignore it completely!

  2. In my opinion I agree more with Jackie, sorry! You can’t tell me that when you log on and see you have notifications you don’t feel like you need to respond quickly, especially if this person is online and can see you STILL haven’t replied to them. Also, you can’t “appear offline” any more on the new chat sadly as this was my way around the ‘awkwardness’ for a while.

    • I don’t feel like I have to reply instantly, no. I see Facebook as a convenience for me, I’d never allow it to dictate how I spend my time (replying to people). I will reply to most things I receive but when I do is down to me. Also, you can still appear offline, it’s in the options menu!

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